The arrival of little brother puts a strain on big brother. The jealousy of children but it is an important moment in their growth. That’s why it’s good to know what to do and what to avoid during the 9 months of pregnancy and after the birth of the newborn.
Children, in fact, do not know how to handle their jealousy that overwhelms them. So, for now can be lived in the best way and doesn’t turn into a trauma, you need to have a better understanding of the matter.
One important thing to know is that the older child is jealous of her little brother, but at the same time, he loves him and is glad of his arrival.
The jealousy of the child, moreover, is not “forever”, as in the case of adults, but in most cases resolves spontaneously and lasts for short periods.
Simple rules will help us to understand the correct road to take.
How to behave in front of this new event?
- Theinvolvement of major matters concerning the birth of little brother is critical
- Beaccompanied by a few visits to control and ask the midwife to let him hear the heartbeat of her little brother is a good initiative
- It is also important that the child canget in touch with the bump, feel fetal movements and establish the first relationship with him
- May alsohelp parents choose the name of the little brother
- Decorating together the new roomwill be important to prepare for the real change that we will
- Browse with him the family album and comment on photographs from when he was small he give him the ability to empathize
There are some attitudes that should be avoided. What are?
- It is goodnot to demand that major progress in the period preceding childbirth face because, like us, you are getting used to a change not indifferent and feels challenged in all his skills. Rather it will be good to reassure him and praise him
- Don’t hide anythingof what is happening or will happen. Children are sensitive to gestures and to Miss
- Do not forget to inform him that the mother will have to go to the hospitalto give birth to her brother and that will remain for a few days. Reassure him that Dad or grandparents will be with him and will stay at his house or he’ll get from them
- The new arrival should not be announced too soonbecause for him the pregnancy will become clearer only when it is evident
- You have tobe careful not to match the inclusion in kindergarten or nursery with the birth of the second child
It is also good not to get stuck too on some behaviors regressiv the major will be able to act like wetting the bed again, stammering, become shy or introvert: this is usually transient attitudes, destined to disappear over time. However, ahead of aggressive behavior must be firm and even a small punishment being careful not to fall into the trap and become violent themselves. The child could learn to use the same system against the little brother.
Particular importance requires the period following the birth of the infant and mother’s coming home with the newborn.
- For your child, especially if still small,go to the hospital is really important even when his reaction seems to be anger or boredom. The time of the first visit to the hospital can be excruciating unless you can convey to the child that the love felt for him will not change and will not change.
- In this sense,the father’s role is important because you will stay in the House with him and will have to devote more time to play, browse set of books that speak of the topic, stay with him up to sleep. Upon returning to the hospital the mom has to devote himself, as soon as possible, the baby bigger.
- A good gimmick to hook his sensitivity is to require little help. He will feel proud of himself when he realizes that it will be useful. We must embrace much more than normal even though at first he may react aggressively.
- During visits to friends and relatives is good to give attention also to his older brother.
With regard to the report that the 2 little brothers will have to establish, it is good that the largest can actively interact with the little one. Should be able to touch and hold him in the presence of parents in order to create unity and loosen tension and fear.
Even so, the little man or the woman of the House will have tasks of adjutant at the time of the bath, take the clean diaper, towel, disposable wipes, pacifier.
As always, the important thing is not to dramatize but demonstrate understanding and affection. A greater amount of pampering will help him overcome his fear of losing the love of mom and dad thus satisfying his need for attention from them.
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